Sexual attraction is a human instinct but our generation allows it to go too in depth in ways that become TOXIC. We search for the feeling of being wanted, appreciated, acknowledged and even loved by what attracts the eye. Getting to know a person for what they really are has become so uncommon. We are so quick to feed what we lust and starve what we need. The constant battle of mental, emotional relationship versus a sexual interaction comes into play and in most cases, sex wins. Speaking from experience, it’s very inconsiderate to pursue a person with only the intentions of being sexual. That blatantly states that you have no respect for their worth, character or time. You may disagree but if sex is all you can offer and ask of a person, you should re-evaluate yourself. Which brings me to my next point. After questioning “when will it stop” I realized it wasn’t just my awful choice in men, it was me too. I desperately needed to grow up and grow out of that weak mindset. Just like anything else I disagree with that our very oblivious, careless generation does, I have to stand against this theory of it being okay to be considered a “friend” with benefits. How is settling for a forced, stagnant, unhealthy disconnection beneficial to my growth? Ever since I put things into perspective and started respecting myself AS I SHOULD, I’ve become so cautious when it comes to allowing people in my space. What you allow is what you get.
I’m more than sex appeal.