I Am Her, Unapologetically.

I don’t think there is anything more sexier than a woman who is confident and bold in every step she takes no matter what she’s been through. It doesn’t happen overnight for us. We fight to get to the point of loving who we are, both inside and out. The painful situations we face sometimes cause us to question ourselves— Miscarriage, abuse, infidelity, abandonment, molestation. It’s crazy to me that society teaches us to be submissive— take care of the home, tend to men and nurture the kids. But my question is, who’s doing that for us? Why is it so hard to believe that we can run the business and expect to come home to a hot meal on the table prepared by the man? It’s so rare to see that and even in regards to that type of arrangement, people laugh and judge. Why is it so funny that the roles can reverse, and if we women want it to, the roles SHOULD reverse? Why can’t it be heels at the head of the company table and not a tie? And if it is a tie, for fashionable reasons, why can’t it be a woman wearing it? Lol. I ask that to say this — LADIES, society can say what they want and men can think what they think but it doesn’t define you. It does not define us.

The most beautiful thing about women is that we are all different in appearance but somewhat are all the same deep down inside, at heart. We give birth for a reason. Our bodies go through the changes it does for a reason. We fall harder than men do because we are vulnerable. They say we have attitudes, especially when it comes to us black women, but that’s really called passion and strength from what we go through. We endure so much and still have the capability to be the backbone for our men, our children and our families. God made us this way for His own reasons and knowing that alone should give you strength no one can ever take from you. We are all fearfully and wonderfully made.

​Today, I challenge you to self reflect and recognize your power as a woman. Y’all, we have a female VP! That speaks volumes and the fact that that it is causing an uproar speaks even louder. We can do and be whoever we want to be while looking good doing it. Read that again. Now, take hold of your power and acknowledge everything that makes you, you. Fall in love with yourself before you fall in love with anyone else. Don’t lose yourself to anything or anybody because if that person or thing causes you to do so, that’s not love and you should revoke access to yourself. You deserve the world and then some. Societal views can go to hell. It’s BEEN time for change. Visualize the woman you want to be and show up as her every time, UNAPOLOGETICALLY. And let yourself know, “I AM HER, UNAPOLOGETICALLY.”

Sending you nothing but positive vibes, love and blessings! Xo