Following me on Instagram has probably let you in on my secret weapon to a lit look...SHADES. Yes, I have a thing for shades and how it adds to an outfit. Riri and I share that in common🤷🏽♀️. Let me fill you in on what makes these shades so special to me: I WON THEM! I follow a ton of fashion and style blogs on Instagram, Styling Stingy being one of my favs. I won the Blue Jay shades and 2 other pieces that I will be sharing with you in another post (stay tuned.)
The creative mind behind the brand is Al, a 25 year old stylist from Jersey. His brand is built on his love for thrifting and recognizing the importance of maintaining a stylish lifestyle that will not burn a hole in your pocket. As a stylist and style blogger, I’ve been in the situation where I felt the pressure to purchase designer pieces. However, learning about Al’s brand has confirmed my reasoning for not allowing myself to fall victim to that kind of mindset. Style is defined by personality and preference. It’s all about how you put certain pieces together and confidently wear it. It is not defined by a price tag or the name on the tag, that’s called identifying an item.
It’s safe to stay that his goal to inspire while being creative and sharing his eye for art through style has certainly been accomplished. I’m inspired. Originality is what makes your brand stand out. Look out for more Styling Stingy pieces. Thank you Al❤️
Click on the link above for dope pieces to add to your wardrobe.
•A white off the shoulder top + fitted “MALIBU” sweats (Brandy Melville pieces)
•My favorite handbag (Aldo)
•”THE BLUE JAY” shades by Styling Stingy
First of all, HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN'S DAY! This is one of my favorite days in the year because I love the overall idea of acknowledging the beauty in being a WOMAN. We are needed in this world ladies. FACT: WE GIVE LIFE.
Unfortunately, there are so many single mothers in the world and I hate the fact that this is a very common issue. However, I want to take the time today to acknowledge these women. These women are turning the IMPOSSIBLE into POSSIBLE on their own. I don't have children yet so I can only imagine the pressure of having a little one rely on you and you only. Yeah child support may play as some type of FINANCIAL assistance, if that, but what about actual SUPPORT for the CHILD? Do absent fathers think about that? Na they don't. What about the sanity of the MOTHER? Life throws so many jabs at us so imagine having to know how to deal with your own personal issues on top of being responsible for another life. To be responsible for another life on your own. RE-READ THAT AND LET IT SINK IN. If you're reading this and this is your situation, I want to let you know that you are EVERYTHING AND SOME. Your incredible efforts as A MOTHER will and can never go unnoticed. You brought life into this world, God gives life so everything you're doing is counted for. Keep going.
WIVES, I take my hat off to you as well because you are the heart of the home and the rib of the man. That man needs you just as much as a child does. Sisters are always there to keep you on your toes. ALL 10. I Know mine do. Aunts are like 2nd mamas, always there to check up on you and spoil you. Spoil? Don't get me started on GRANDMOTHERS. Where would we be without grandmas? So nurturing and loving!! The love of a woman is so strong, so genuine and there is nothing like it. Why do you think God made Eve out of Adam's rib. Did it hit you? We are POWERFUL BEINGS.
Listen, my mother gave birth to a woman who wants to make change in the world we live in. I am one out of a billion other women so I can only imagine the POWER we would have collectively so let's do it; WOMANHOOD.
As wardrobe stylists, fashion bloggers, style vloggers, etc. we always get so caught up in thoughts like “what will be the next big thing in fashion? Or what’s the hottest trend and where can we find it?” Let's take a little break from intense research and have fun with what's in our own closets. I chose to take a step back and show a little recognition to some of the pieces I've hand selected to build up my wardrobe. So with that being said, LET ME INTRODUCE YOU TO MY FAVORITE PIECES AND TELL YOU WHAT MAKES THEM SO SPECIAL TO ME.
NATIVE AMERICAN INSPIRED DETACHABLE COLLAR/CHOKER
The reason why this will forever be my favorite choker NO MATTER WHAT is because I designed it myself. If you didn't know, sketching is one of passions. Two summers ago, I sketched a flared pant cat suit with this detachable Native American inspired collar/choker. My family's Native American so bringing this specific design to life was and still is a major accomplishment. Being that I have no clue how to sew, I had to bring my design to someone who could. She's actually a family friend who used to make cute outfits for me when I was in elementary school. YOU COULDN'T TELL ME NOTHING lol. But get this... this lady has years and years of experience and gave me a compliment that will forever stick with me. She told me that my design was very detailed and there was no need for clarity. Meaning, she knew exactly what I wanted just by looking at what I drew. She then went on to make a very valid point, saying "I wouldn't have thought to add feathers to a choker piece. See, I can deliver as a seamstress but that's what makes you a designer. You took what you had in your mind and put it on paper." I don't think she knows how much that meant to me.
YOU GET THE BAG...
This bag makes me feel so bougie and I love it. Guess how much this statement piece was: $25 from Aldo. As you can see, it's not spacious and is not meant for every day use. However, it's so hard not to wear it. She's such a neutral color so she goes with so many different outfits. In addition to that, it brings that UMPH to your look. It can be worn as a crossbody bag or carried by the handle. One of my best purchases in life.
I LIVE FOR A BERET! I can't wait to get on my friends nerves even more when I add to the collection. I just think that berets are so classy and cute. Both of these hats are from ZARA. I wore the black diamond and pearl studded beret to NYFW event (posted on the Portfolio) and I got so many compliments. I wear the red beret occasionally. Check out how I recently wore it below.
SHADES are such a necessity, in my opinion. Riri agrees so that should validate my point. These are my 2 favs. How lit are these white framed Versace’s?! I love them not just because they’re Versace but because it was a gift from my cousin. Anything coming from my loved ones is special.
The black cat eye shades is my 2nd fav because it was the last pair in the store. I was on a hunt for exactly this and I found it in Aldo. I even bought them in pink too.
Anyone who knows me knows that I was never a huge fan of earrings. Until I purchased these! These earrings got me to step out of my comfort zone. I now proudly wear hoops and any type of stylish dangly earring with no hesitation. I bought these in burgundy too lol what self control?
CAN I CLONE THIS TSHIRT?
I’m probably speaking for every wardrobe stylist in the world when I say that I’d love for ZARA to send me a life time supply of this T-shirt. If I could wear this shirt every single day without being judged I WOULD. The funny thing about this is that I’m wearing this T-shirt today. I love it because it’s a simple reminder of what I stand for and who I am. “STYLE IS NEVER WRONG- use only under stylist supervisor” enough said.
Life has a real funny way of teaching us lessons and building us up in the process. Tragic experiences can really mentally break a human down to the point of them not understanding the need to love themselves. I can definitely identify with how that feels. I lost my mother at the age of seven, I have no relationship with my father because he doesn't have an interest in knowing me and to say I have been "hurt" by "family" would be a complete understatement. Years ago, I battled with the lowest of the low, low self esteem. In addition to that, I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression after losing my grandmother who meant EVERYTHING to me. I allowed people to walk all over me and talk to me any type of way. Speaking up for myself made me feel uncomfortable. Unbelievable right? My choice in men was terrible and thinking back on it I have to laugh at the irony in me choosing men who were just like my father: insecure, childish, lacking in love and straight up lost. I guess I found comfort in what I knew... until I realized it wasn't healthy for me. I chose a relationship with GOD and decided to leave it all behind. That was step 1. I always knew who God was but to have a relationship with him is different. Feeling his presence is an experience in itself and it changed my life forever. Overtime, I began to peep certain traits within myself and I fell in love with myself. There was nothing forced about it, it just happened. I then figured out what my passion was ALTHOUGH it was right in front of me the whole time. I was just so distracted by all of the things I had to let go of. Following that, my purpose was revealed to me. Through this journey, I learned about who I am and accepting myself felt amazing. Self love is knowing and loving God. Self love is accepting your flaws and everything that makes you, you. Self love is making decisions that won't jeopardize your well-being. Self love is detaching yourself from any and everything that is not healthy for you mentally or physically. Self love is simply choosing YOU.
We don't have much control over the life challenges that are thrown in our faces BUT it is our choice to let it either make us or break us. Love yourself enough to let it all MAKE you and always remember you have power over it all. xoxo